We have become people of infinite information. The internet and it's absolute unending tentacles, has given humanity more power and information at their finger tips than they have ever had before. What do we do with this power, we date of course. We are on the endless pursuit of love and affection. We put out information into online sites, putting out best feet forward, giving selling ourselves in 160 characters or less. Is that not just the absolute height of sophistication? I cannot judge, and will never judge, as I am also on those horrid dating/personal/hook-up sites. I too fell into the trap and got myself on there, and do not get me wrong, I have met some really awesome people on there, and some not so awesome people on there. I have seen more male reproductive organs than I have faces. It's horrifyingly great.
Here is the problem with it though. Online chatting allows you to be the absolute best that you would like to be. Your personality can be whom you want to be. It's dangerous. You start to develop "feelings" for these IP addresses, and you do know know them & should you get to the stage of a face-to-face meeting, you realize two vitally important things: 1) This person that you have gotten to know online and liked online and got on so well, actually does not have a personality type that you would want to get to know personally. 2) You would much rather talk to someone or exist as a virtual presence rather than sitting with this person face to face, because online, in your house, all safe and sound, you can be that person who you want to be. Straight off the bat.
The best about these sites, are those men who say that they are looking for something meaningful, and when you make contact and get a reply, it is the happiest moment that you have experienced that hour. You tentatively click on the Inbox icon, and the very first worlds that you are confronted with is SEX... Generally I would not complain, BUT I can see that they viewed my profile, and sex is not what I wanted. I dont want random sex & the reason I made contact with them, is because they also said that they do not. The bastards. So I was honest on my profile, and they do not even bother. Piss! What is the point.
Go out! Meet people face to face! (*I hear everyone yelling*) Let me get something crystal clear at this point. Going out is great. I am a gay person, so I would naturally go to gay clubs, however the ones that are in SA are either so dingy that I feel I need a full body condom before entering, and the other ones are so crowded with little groups of chattering men that there is barely a change to talk to your own friends, never mind making a new one. So online dating, connecting or chatting is honestly in my opinion the next best thing.
I do have some advice though peoples. Meet someone online. Go for it. BUT push for an initial meeting so that you know what you are working with. Personality match. Physical attraction. All those important things. It will work out better for everyone involved, and it will help you to waste less time chatting to someone whom you may not like in the long run.
On that note, lecture over, message end. Self destruct.
Happy online-ing! Your friendly IP!
No comments:
Post a Comment